|Posted by mysticdragonbjj on September 26, 2015 at 12:10 AM|
Hi. By the time you’re reading this, you will have undoubtedly heard and read many things about your father and paternal grandmother (Pat Lang). My goal isn’t to “convert” you to my way of thinking. Instead, I simply want to present a side you’ll likely never otherwise encounter.
Your father, David Lang, pictured on this website and born on May 27, 1983, inexplicably decided to masquerade as a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu black belt and, if he had done any research at all, he would have realized that this is one of the worst possible things someone can do if they care at all about sparing themselves as well as those associate with them (such as family) from intense Internet infamy. But that is exactly what he has done. And it turned out to be only the beginning.
For the past several years, David Lang, your father, has seemingly made it his full-time job to thumb his nose by creating a lot of fake social media accounts and photoshopping pictures, such as the one above in a vain attempt to create a very weak mirage that he is the holder of a black belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. You really owe it to yourself to ask him why he has done this. I have a theory that your grandfather, Oneil Lang, may have lied about his boxing claims. Is your father continuing some very destructive family tradition into the Internet age?
Does it make him feel dominant to those who wear lower color belts that are photographed with him? Is that why he posted pictures of you and/or your siblings wearing white belts with him? Does he really feel a need to show dominance over his own flesh and blood?
Obviously, we have seen to it that none of his attempts have worked and he has nothing to show for the last several years of his professional life. When he took his father’s insurance proceeds to buy a truck (to drive several hours to a gym in Pennsylvania where he wore a black belt), what did you receive? Were you wanting for material items while he had a nice, new truck?
And what about Pat Lang, your grandmother? Why has she enabled your father and seemingly encouraged him to put his selfish interests above those of the children he is supposed to be supporting? Her nonprofit does seem pretty shady and it's been caught in the bright lights aimed at your father. Do you think it’s not coincidental that he is finding his girlfriends through this charity and dating ones right before they get settlements? Speaking of settlements, where did his money for the Brazil trip come from? Sources have indicated to me it was from Tiffany French whom he dumped as soon as he got to Brazil.
None of this sounds very Christian to me. And your father’s Facebook posts seem to be aimed at deflecting criticism that squarely and fairly depicts him. Ask him how he can look at himself in the mirror? Does he think he has a pathological issue? If so, why did he never seek help? Why didn’t your grandmother ever intervene?
What Could Have Been
Let’s go back to December 2010. Your father is outed. He makes a different choice. He owns up to his mistake and finds something else to occupy his time. Had he put nearly the same time and energy into something else, he could be a licensed electrician or plumber by now. In fact, it’s quite likely he’d have both licenses and he’d be licensed and insured to do fairly lucrative blue-collar work such as kitchen and bathroom remodeling. Or maybe a mechanic, roofer or the like who had established a profitable business.
He could also have been a CPA by now. Or even a non college degreed manager utilizing the so-called “white privilege.”
Of course, if you add in the pre December 2010 time he devoted to pretending to be a black belt, he could very easily be … wait for it … a genuine black belt running his own gym. He could even call it Lang MMA, have expectations of turning a profit and not live in fear of it being shut down by an Internet mob!
The Sad Reality
Instead, your father, with seemingly whole-hearted support from his mother has completely squandered the last several years of his life. The same years most successful professionals spend acquiring their career skills. He has been bullied by a relentless Internet mob and it has affected not just himself, but very clearly at least to me his mother – your grandmother. Just like the websites say, it may not be noticeable at first, but the stress factor does build up over time. I hear that she has become increasingly testy and stressed. And, apparently, those Facebook direct messages and whispers around town have now taken an appreciable toll on her health.
You have a very common last name and a very plausible defense since none of this was your idea and you had nothing to do with his fraudulent black belt infamy or the allegations about his kiddie abusing past.
1. Get out of Central New York.
You don’t have to go far. Downstate would open your eyes and present you with many more opportunities as well as a “clean slate.” It’s nice down here. Leave after high school for college. (You don’t want the negativity to impact your college experience as good grades really do open doors for employers and graduate schools.) On a personal note, I didn’t leave Western New York until after University at Buffalo and I regret not getting out sooner. Besides, if you don’t like it, you can always go back. However, you can never recoup the lost time if you wait to leave and you don’t want to haunt yourself with “what if” questions.
2. Take BJJ classes at a reputable gym.
I promise you will see an immediate difference from what your dad has tried to teach you and you’ll understand our passion in protecting this martial art. (Besides, most gyms offer free trials, so there shouldn’t be any out-of-pocket expenses.
3. Keep an open mind.
Undoubtedly, you have heard vastly contrasting stories from your parents. It’s always going to be tempting to blindly believe a parent and not want to see how they could ever even possibly hurt you in the slightest way. Unfortunately, not all people are good and some of them eventually become parents.
The sooner you can read people and see what’s happening around you objectively, the sooner you will be able to live a healthy, happy and productive life. Speaking of life, I know I speak for everyone when I say we hope you make good choices and successfully break the destructive cycle that seems to have run in your paternal family for at least the last 2 generations!